A freind of mine and our famous (or notorious) Ram Gopal Varma got me thinking about a topic which could be conterversial as well as disrepctful.My freind(who is an Indian) who is also my colleague always has high regards for Westren countries,there people,he almosts looks down upon India and most of the habits of our people,intially I thought he is just immature and too general in thinking but my own soul searching on this issue has made me revisit my views on this.Then I read Mr RGV"s tweets about his view on the movie Inception,as exepected he was going ga-ga over it and then he compared Hollywood to Bollywood,bt one statement that rankled me the most and made me think was that when he said,"we may not accept with our thirld world minset,bt they are far superior than us".Eventhough he primarly meant in terms of moviemaking,I thought whether it applies to other aspects of our society also?And my conclusion is may be,atleast in some aspects like how we treat our women,80% of women in this country are treated badly and abused in some way or another.Even today in cases of eve-teasing,rape and other abuse,people try to find fault in the victim,whether she dressed provcatively etc etc.Northern part of the country is worst in this regard,infact some communties in some parts of North India are notorious for ther conservative views and disgusting behaviour towards women.If you are wondering what staes and communties are these,just check out states with the most skewed ratios and ask any woman on the streets of Delhi, men of which communtiy they fear the most Delhi of course,which in its bad luck is surrounded by this backward and uncivilsed states, suffers.Then comes hygeine,most of our fellow countrymen have zero sense and reposnsibilty towards cleanliness and hygeine of their city, town or villages.I mean in which country does the govt has to plead to use toilets constructed for them and not squat in open feilds,or the plea to keep your coolers and surrondings clean to avoid dengue and malria even in cities like Delhi or to flush the toilet and not soil it as many of us have seen that in our train washrooms.Just think you need to be told to flush the toilet and not to soil it!!Our negihbouring countries like Bangladesh,Srilanka have bettr cleanliness and people have bettr awareness about it,so forget comparing to th west,going to public restrooms in India is a harrowing expeirence,not knowing what degree of filth to expect,and yes even the pay and use ones are that bad.Only in the malls do you get good hygenic restrooms.Then comes behaviour in general especially in public places,loud,potbellied men staring lecherously at women,indiscplined children runnig here and there making noisesmen and women talking loudly and spitting on roads.This charcterstics have been exhibted even in westren countires,no wonder our people are getting thrashed around:)Our marriages,especially in North,loud,crassy,creating traffic problems and nusiance to others and then from next day as we read in papers,daughter-in-law gets beaten and killed for more dowry.We are always so proud of our culture,rich and ancient which we use to inflate our egos.But here is the eye opener,that was the past,we are not even worthy succesors to the great minds of that time.Instead of following the philosophy of our great ancestors,the liberal and scientific outlook they had,we have created and follow stupid, irrevelant and backward customs and rituals and are even prepared to kill our own kin for it.And finally a bit less serious issue,the kind of TV serials and news which run on television these days,boy that makes me seriously doubt the IQ of my countrymen and countywomen especially!I mean this rubbish,the soaps,the reality shows,they are downright dumb,vulgur,loud and irritating.Women who watch these shows cannot claim to be intelligent and to be treated equally,no wonder majority of of our women get thrashed around by their husbands!Our TV media is also among the worst in the world,especially Hindi and the regional channels,Hindi is threatend not by English but by these stupid Hindi news channels,which will surely repel younger, educated and urbane audiences in time to come.Finally the kind of polticians dat get elected ,Lalu Prasad,Mamta Banarjee,DeveGowda to name a few, (barring a few good ones that too now with the younger generation taking some intrest in the electoral process)adds the icing on the cake.Now Iam gonna end this article,Iam tired of bashing:)But Iam proud many things of my country and I hope that history has shown,India has the resillance to pass through the dark times and get stronger.I think the youth of this country can and should correct the many wrongs plaguing our society,changes are visible which give us hope,but this changes are slow and painful.But Change as they say is Invetiable.